Obesity and the Male Libido

Obesity and the Male Libido

While visiting with my sisters in California, I was treated to a comedy showcase hosted by none other than Faizon “Big Worm” Love. You’ve probably seen Faizon in the news lately for administering a beat down on some younger dudes that disrespected him. That’s another story.

During his opening, Faizon talked about the need to have patience with your spouse. You see, he left his wife because he was tired of having to talk to her. She talks so much! So, he packed up and went to an island [or something] where he was going to find a new wifey. What he forgot, as the story goes, was that none of these young ladies are looking for a 400 pound, sleep apnea having, old dude who can’t even keep his junk hard.

Faizon from 2009 film “Couples Retreat”

I didn’t know if I should laugh or call the guy a medic. I never knew that he had gotten so, BIG – standing there on that little stage.

The funny thing is that some of ya’ll might be thinking the same thing. Tired of her, when the real problem is you.

Listen, I’m going to tell it how it is for a minute. The ladies are getting their stuff together. They are out running. They at least try to watch what they eat. And for what? So they can have 30 seconds of ecstasy from you? Once or twice a month? How is that working out for you?

Since it is Sunday, I’m going to get Biblical here. What? You don’t think the Bible has application on what is going on between you and your woman? Let me show you something that men have used for years but only got half the story right.

Let the husband give to [his] wife her due; but let the wife also do likewise to [her] husband. The wife does not exercise authority over her own body, but her husband does; likewise, also, the husband does not exercise authority over his own body, but his wife does. Do not be depriving each other [of it]– 1 Corinthian 7:3-5

Many of us have been walking around like she owes us something when it is us men who owe our wives. And you might know that if you listened to her. Well, not all the time, but sometimes.

Obesity affects the male libido in too many ways. I’m not just talking about the obvious issues with confidence with your shirt off. Men with high cholesterol and insulin resistance can’t get enough blood flow into the tiny arteries of the penis. Since you are low on testosterone you aren’t working out much (okay ever).  Oh, and because we’re fat we lack sex hormone binding globulin (SHBG) to  transport the little testosterone left. So now you have Erectile Dysfunction (ED). It’s no wonder everyone is grabbing for blue pills.

If you’ve had your blood tests, have you talked with your wife about your numbers? Have you shared your concern with her? You should.

Ask her to help you to lose the weight. If she’s grown with you, tell her you will do it together. You don’t have to get shredded and you don’t even have to talk. Another benefit of losing the weight may just help with apnea, too.

Recommendation: In addition to your weight loss exercises, do some activities that increase blood flow to the pelvic areas like brisk walking or riding a bike for 20 minutes, 3 times a week. See if you can add any of these foods to your diet.